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1. What exactly does "having sex" include?

"Having sex" can mean many things. It can refer to intimacy or closeness between a man and a woman, between two men or between two women. "Having sex" doesn't just mean when a man's penis enters a woman's vagina.

2. What is vaginal sex?

Vaginal sex usually means having a man's penis placed inside a woman's vagina.

3. What is oral sex?

Oral sex means one person placing his or her mouth on another person's genitals (penis, vagina or anus).

4. What is anal sex?

Anal sex is usually when a man's penis is placed inside someone else's anus, or butt hole.

5. How do you use condoms?

The penis should be erect (hard) and the condom should be put on before the penis touches the vagina, mouth or anus.

Carefully open the condom packet-don't use your teeth, fingernails or anything sharp so you don't nick the condom-and remove the rolled up condom.

Most condoms have a nipple-shaped end on it. Pinch that together to squeeze out the air before placing the condom on the head of the erect penis. This is the tip where the semen will go when the male partner ejaculates (comes) after his orgasm.

Carefully roll the condom down the erect (hard) penis. If the condom will not roll, then it's not turned the right way. Throw it away and start over. Do not unroll and then re-roll a condom.

The unrolled condom should cover the majority of the penis shaft. Check for air bubbles and squeeze them out before the covered penis is inserted.

When intercourse is complete, hold the condom securely at the base of the penis and withdraw before the penis goes soft. Holding the condom prevents it from slipping or spilling.

Throw the condom away after it's been used. Never reuse a condom.

Always use a new condom for each sexual act.
Human error causes more condom failure than manufacturing errors.

6. What is a dental dam?

A dental dam is a flat piece of latex that is made for use during dental procedures. They can be purchased in some medical supply stores or in some adult bookstores. They can be used as a barrier between the mouth and the vagina or anus during oral sex. Household plastic wrap or a split and flattened, unlubricated condom can also be used if you don't have dental dam.

7. If I take birth control pills, do we still need to use condoms?

Yes! Birth control pills are prescribed only to prevent pregnancy. They do not protect you from sexually transmitted diseases (STDs).

8. How do I get tested for STDs?

There are many different tests for each of the different STDs. There is not one test that will screen for all STDs. Some STDs are hard to test for if you do not have any symptoms. Some STDs can be tested through simple blood work or a urine test; some can only be tested for through culturing body fluid from the penis, vagina or open sore on the body. If you go in for testing, it is important to ask your health care provider which tests will be done and which will not. Sometimes weeks or months need to pass to give your body enough time to develop antibodies that will show up in a test.

9. Where do I go to get tested?

Your local health department, community clinic, private doctor or Planned Parenthood are all good locations to check out for STD testing. The CDC National STD and AIDS Hotlines can look up free or low cost clinics in your area that do STD testing.

10. What's the difference between confidential and anonymous testing?

All medical care that you receive should be confidential. This means that the information you discuss with your health care providers must stay in your files at the clinic and not be released to anyone without your permission. Anonymous testing is when your name is not associated with the test or the results in any way. You may be given a number or code word to identify yourself during testing and when receiving results. This is not widely available any longer.

11. Do my parents have to find out?

This varies a lot from state to state. Some clinics will see you without your parents' permission and some will not. If you are concerned about this, call the clinic before you go. Ask if you need to bring your parent along for permission and what information the clinic will share with them. This way you know what to expect ahead of time.

12. What are the common symptoms of STDs?

STDs can cause physical symptoms like bumps or sores on the skin, itchy discharge, pain or burning during urination (peeing), fever, or symptoms like the flu. But all of these symptoms can be caused by other illnesses that are not sexually transmitted. Some STDs do not cause any symptoms at all. So, you can see how difficult it would be to diagnose a STD just based on symptoms you may be experiencing.

13. Can I have an STD and not know it?

Yes. Many STDs can take weeks, months or years before symptoms show. Some people never develop symptoms for some STDs. STDS can still be given to someone else even when a person is not experiencing symptoms.

14. How do I know if my partner is infected?

The simple answer is that you may not know your partner is infected unless he or she tells you. Remember, because some STDs don't show any symptoms, your partner may not even know if he or she is infected.

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15. Can you get an STD from a public restroom?

This is not very likely. Most STDs are only transmitted during sexual contact, either by skin to skin contact or through body fluid exchange. Crabs, or pubic lice, may be transmitted through sexual contact, sleeping in infected bedding, sharing infected clothing and possibly through sitting on an infested toilet seat. However, lice cannot survive away from the human body for longer than 24 hours. So contracting pubic lice from a toilet seat is possible, but it's unlikely.

16. Can I get HIV or another STD from getting a tattoo or through body piercing?

There can be a risk for HIV or another blood-borne infection (like Hepatitis B or C) if the instruments used for piercing or tattooing either are not sterilized or disinfected between clients. Any instrument used to pierce or cut the skin should be used once and thrown away, or thoroughly cleaned and sterilized before using them again. Ask the staff at the parlor about their equipment. They will show you what precautions they use.

17. Can I get an STD from kissing?

This is possible but not very common. If your partner's mouth is infected with an STD, then he or she may be able to pass that infection to your mouth during a kiss. Fever blisters and cold sores can be passed through a kiss if your partner is infected, and blood-borne infections like HIV or Hepatitis B or C can only be passed through kissing if there is the exchange of infected blood. If your partner has an infection in his or her genital area, then kissing on the mouth will not transmit the infection.

18. Can I get an STD from oral sex?

Yes. During oral sex, there is skin to skin contact and there can be body fluid exchange, so it is important to use barrier protection like unlubricated condoms or latex dental dams to protect you during oral sex.

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