Once your wedding day is over, you may wonder how the whole event passed in the blink of an eye. You might remember snippets of the ceremony and reception here and there, but the whole picture might escape you. Questions like, "Did everyone have a great time?" or "What did you think of the band?" can best be answered by your most trusted confidantes, the people who you look to for advice. Enter your family and wedding party. Who better to fill you in on all the details that you missed when you were having your photos taken and cutting the cake? A brunch the day after the wedding is a great way for the families of the bride and groom and the wedding party to recount the events of the previous day.
A brunch is wonderfully appropriate when the newlyweds will
be making their home far from their families, especially if
they haven't seen everyone for some time. Having to say goodbye
at the reception to family members and friends that you may
not see for a while is usually difficult, both emotionally
and in terms of expedience. Rather than rush the goodbyes
and thank yous at the end of the reception, why not schedule
a brunch the day after the wedding to do so?
Ideally, if the wedding was a late-night affair, scheduling
the brunch in the late morning, or early in the afternoon,
will allow attendees (especially the bride and groom) to recover
and get some much-needed sleep. Keep in mind that you and
your new spouse may need to leave at a certain time in order
to catch a plane or train to your honeymoon destination. Make
sure you have plenty of time to eat and meet with the brunch
guests and not feel rushed. This is the time to relish your
new roles as husband and wife -- enjoy it!
Who Hosts? The bride and groom, a relative, or friend can
host the brunch or each guest can contribute. There are no
hard and fast rules with regard to who hosts the brunch. Generally,
the brunch should be held near the wedding location so that
guests who traveled from out of town will not be inconvenienced.
It is especially nice if someone offers to have it at his
or her home. A private home adds such a personal touch. If
a home is not available, a quaint restaurant is a wonderful
option. And they may even be able to arrange a special menu
for the occasion!
Invitations. Although invitations may not be needed if the
brunch is going to include family and wedding party members
only, sending out invitations is never inappropriate. Besides,
think of the nice memento an invitation will make for you
and your spouse.
Who to Invite. As a general rule, the wedding party members
and the immediate family of the bride and groom attend the
brunch. The number of people invited to the brunch is usually
kept to a minimum, so that the newlyweds will have a chance
to speak with each person individually. It's a lovely gesture
to invite people who have traveled a great distance to attend
the wedding. These guests will appreciate being included,
and it will make their trip even more memorable and worthwhile.
Menu. Popular brunch items include Belgian waffles, Eggs Benedict,
pastries, fruit, mimosas (champagne with orange juice), hash
browns and other breakfast-related foods. However, don't feel
obligated to serve the standard brunch fare. A menu featuring
a favorite type of cuisine of the bride and groom is also
an option, as is a barbecue or other casual dining choice,
as long as the brunch is not held the first thing in the morning.
Coffee and Tea
Bagels, lox and cream cheese
Lemon scones with clotted cream
Pear, apple and berry fruit salad
Lunch-Style Brunch (Spring-Summer)
Coffee and tea
Salmon with lemon and dill
Green bean salad
Lunch-Style Brunch (Autumn-Winter) Hot cider
Coffee and tea
Spinach and sausage quiche
Potato pancakes with applesauce
Fennel, watercress and orange salad
Style. Because the brunch is usually an informal affair, guests
as well as the honorees (the bride and groom) should feel
free to dress casually. Besides, as newlyweds, you are beginning
a honeymoon vacation; why not reflect that with the dress
code? A relaxed setting is a perfect way to wind down from
the busy wedding weekend.
Mark The Occasion. To make a priceless record of the brunch,
make sure you bring a camera or video camera. Going around
the room or table and having each person recount their favorite
part of the wedding is a nice way to see your special day
through someone else's eyes. Or bring a notebook or diary
to the brunch and have each guest write down a special memory
and read it on your honeymoon.
Bon Voyage. When you leave for your honeymoon, you will now
have a wealth of new memories to cherish, courtesy of the
brunch guests. If you did not throw the brunch yourselves,
don't forget to send the hosts a postcard from your honeymoon
to thank them for the memorable send-off. You will be glad
that you took the extra time to thank those closest to you
for helping to make your wedding weekend complete.